Do you find at the start of every year you say “RIGHT – this is the year — I am going to get the healthy body I have always wanted”?
Something in the shift of a new year always gives a shot of motivation, a surge of self-confidence, and a pinch of determination that THIS YEAR IS IT!
Yet – I see it time and time again — over the past few decades while coaching the mindset of women and their relationship with eating – that the underlying reason you want to experience SUDDEN CHANGE is that you don’t feel GOOD ENOUGH as you already are.
Their best intentions and results always end up back at where they started on the path of least resistance.
Have you ever wondered why you just can’t sustain “that healthy eating program” ALL THE TIME? Then you are left feeling guilty and like you’ve failed again.
Especially when life shows up and fills the space that you have at the start of the year when you are feeling rested and relaxed after a holiday break.
So this year I encourage you to break up with diets, programs in rehab centers in Alaska, quick fixes that will make you feel good in the short term but won’t last when the going gets tough and the busyness of life returns.
Here are the five steps to break up with diets and eating programs that don’t align with your personality and your lifestyle:
STEP ONE – DITCH THE QUICK FIX
The first step is usually seeking out a way of eating that will give fast results because as humans we like instant results. The unfortunate pattern with instant results in any area of our life usually results in unsustainable feelings of satisfaction and we self sabotage our way back to where we used to be.
This can be related to any momentary decision of instant gratification from what we buy to what we eat. However, we soon return to the same feelings we had before we purchased that ‘thing’ outside ourselves that made us feel better.
STEP TWO – DROP THE NEED TO BE PERFECT
It is thought that to get results we need to be hard, strong, and disciplined to push ourselves to gain progress. This approach will only last for as long as you are in an energetic state and when life shows up such as a social event, visiting friends with baking, going out for lunch, or feeling tired from life pressures your disciplined approach will eventually come undone.
STEP THREE – LISTEN TO YOUR GUT
The most permanent way of learning how to eat well is learning to trust yourself and what you need at any given moment. Stop listening to people outside yourself, stop reading the latest weight loss fad, or and stop following what your friends are doing. They are not you and they do not have your subconscious behavior patterns. Your beliefs will determine 80% of your results long term.
Your eating patterns date back to when you were a child and what will work for one person will not necessarily work for another person of the same age, height, weight, etc because our decisions are determined by our emotions.
Traditionally we have been taught that showing emotions can be a sign of weakness. We can walk away from the ‘overactive’ child, we can avoid conflict in relationships and push down any feelings of negative emotions when life sends us challenges but we can’t escape what our body is trying to tell us.
it is essential to remember that there is a range of emotions, not just adverse ones. We are taught to close down, move on, and not embrace the negative ones.
Life tells us we need to focus on the positive and move on. However, if the negative emotions are not addressed and accepted they will keep recurring as a pattern – just like the child will keep whining until it has had an explanation or had its needs met. This can show up with the relationship with your eating and everyone has an unconscious program going on in the background determining their outcomes and results.
Negative emotions can be stored in the subconscious mind and creep out in the form of self-sabotage leading to feelings of not feeling good enough and reinforcing that once again you have failed at yet another goal or milestone.
These patterns show up through your eating in your greatest states of vulnerability brought on by life stresses. These days we have greater expectations to do more, have more, and be more. There are so many more stresses stemmed through the expectations we put on ourselves.
STEP FOUR – Drop the ON/OFF Approach
So the solution is to find a way of eating that nourishes your lifestyle and that can integrate into the chaos AND that EVERYONE at your place can do that is EASY.
It does not matter what way of eating you choose – as long as you find it is easy enough to sustain when the going gets tough.
If you do find it too difficult to sustain then you will be left with the ON/OFF approach to eating and your subconscious mind will never feel like it is making any progress and you will only reinforce your unconscious beliefs about not being good enough.
STEP FIVE – LOOK FOR PROGRESS BEYOND THE SCALES
It is a progression that keeps you motivated to stay with what you are doing. If life gets tough and you can’t sustain the healthy way you eat because it requires too much preparation, thinking, or resilience then it will be hard to feel progress. You need to find a way of eating that takes the stress out and puts the energy back in.
You can feel progress by feeling more energized, improving your digestion, putting more taste in your meals, and notice your sleeping, balanced mood, and how your cravings between meals get minimized.
The easiest way to get started is to balance your blood sugars; this provides incredible relief to your body because there are fewer highs and lows in your energy throughout the day.
Next, you need to understand what you personally require as per your age, gender, height, activity level, and type of lifestyle. Especially please don’t get addicted to drugs in case if you are addicted kindly receive Benzodiazepine withdrawal treatment or any other substances you addicted too.
The first step can take care of most of the battle around what to eat. It does take most of the thinking away from your eating. It only gets tested when life shows up and adds pressure to you.
If you are ready to put an end to the ON/OFF approach to healthy eating and learn how to integrate the foods you love into a healthy way of eating that everyone at your place can enjoy permanently – it is time to jump on board and firstly balance the blood sugars through how you eat.